How Good is Good Enough

How do you define a person? When you meet them… How do they shake your hand? When they look at you, do they make eye contact? What kind of car do they drive? Where do they work? Are they married? There’s just… all of these things we use to measure a person… when we have no idea who they really are.

There are 7 billion people on the planet. I am not going to even pretend to have the audacity of saying that I can relate to or understand all of them. But over the years I have recognized one common theme in people I have built relationships with. Each person, to some degree or another feels like, they just aren’t good enough.

I battled this thought/feeling all through my teens and my twenties. Now, as I am about to turn thirty, there has been a radical shift in my thinking, in how I see people, how I see myself… and it’s what I want to share with you today.

We live our lives by a set of ideals which are based on the person we are and who we want to become. We all have it in our minds, who we want to look like, act like, live like and be like. The problem is we can never live up to the superhero… who only exists in our minds. We can never get to that place where we satisfy the fullness of that perfect person. And in that place, in that unlovable state, we turn to….things.

We turn to food, sex/pornography/lust, spending money, alcohol/drugs, gossip, clothes, social media posts/photos of ourselves.. you name it, we turn to anything that can give us a reprieve from the nagging lie that is filtering through our minds… I’m not good enough.

Ok, now we’re going to go deep.

We have all seen the Simon Sinek video by now and realize that every time we get a text, a retweet, a like, a share, any of it, there is a release of dopamine which bring pleasure to the body.

Each time anyone views pornography there is also a chemical release in the brain of dopamine. It brings pleasure.

Every time we go and spend money on something new when we are feeling alone, anxious or frustrated, there is also a chemical release of dopamine in our body.

The problem with these “things” is that they are just that. They don’t nourish the soul. They nourish our insecurities.

Our world is constantly telling us one clear message: you aren’t good enough. You aren’t thin enough, beautiful enough, muscular enough, rich enough, liked enough, shared enough…. Well I say, enough.

Jesus said this in Mathew 22: 37-39: Love the Lord with all your heart, soul, mind and your strength. This is the greatest commandment. Also, you shall love your neighbor… as you love yourself.

Let me ask you a question: How do you love your neighbor, if you don’t love yourself? Also, how can you love God, if you don’t love yourself?

Here’s the deal, loving yourself is not doing all the things talked about in this blog, that is medicating insecurity, which will never bring wholeness.

Loving yourself is realizing that Jesus loved you enough to die on a Cross for you and if He loves you that much, then you need to love the person He created you to be. It’s more than just loving Him, He wants you to love you too. That’s how good, good enough is. Good enough is defined by God. And to Jesus, you are good enough…right where you are right now.

I want you to pray this prayer with me:

Jesus, I love you. Thank you for loving me so much that you would die for me. Let your love penetrate my heart and help me Jesus to love what you love. I love who You created me to be. Fill me with your radical unchanging love that accepts me just as I am, right here and right now. Help me to do life for You and not for myself. Free me from the chains this world has bound me with. Let Your love once and for all, break off my chains. I love you and I love myself. Amen.

The best is coming for your life,

Ben